Something that sticks in the forefront of my mind from every work-related convention or one of the many Mentorships I have done over the past few years, is that being authentically yourself is always best to achieve most success in life.
Now, I can honestly say that I feel I am authentic in most things I do and say. I believe I act with integrity to my beliefs pretty much all of the time, but I also believe that this hasn’t really worked in my favour.
I am a very loving, giving, trusting person, yet when I feel I have been wronged I completely change and I cannot hold back from voicing my opinions. This as you can imagine then turns into arguments, loss of friendships and me feeling very hurt for a long time. Yet, I cannot change this within me, it’s part of my make-up. Do I wish I could hold back and keep the peace sometimes? Actually no, as then this would not be being true to myself.
Having owned a business within a small community for the past 12 years, and having to use social media for marketing and attracting clients, I also feel I have not totally been completely myself there, as I was always scared that would turn clients away. Yet from all I have learnt from very experienced business mentors, this is actually the best way to be, as you will then attract the right people to you, no time wasters, and no one who doesn’t align with your beliefs and actions.
It’s tough though right? As my business was my life, and so the fear of turning people against me for really being me was greater than the possible chance of attracting more people by being this way.
I see so many people in business faking it, just because they feel that’s what they should do, and hey I suppose on times I’ve done that myself too.
We try way too hard to give people what we think they want, when in actual fact, we should let them choose for themselves.
So fast forward to 2 months after selling my business. A year after having my baby, feelings of loneliness, depression and being lost as to who I am now, and where I see my career going, and here I am, saying ‘Fuck it’ to pretending, to pleasing people, to bending over backwards for people who don’t really give a shit.
I’m done with bullshit!
I’m done with people who are willing to sell their gran out if it means they progress in life.
I refuse to be a part of the 2 faced, backstabbing, fake gang who seem to fall in shite and come out smelling of roses every time.
I’m done with punishing myself for shooting my mouth off at people who upset me, then worrying about it after.
I’m a big believer in focusing on YOU and not others, as success in life comes from within, but I am not a believer in knocking others down in the meantime.
I believe we should build each other up, not knock each other down.
The world is a big place, there is room for each and every one of us to be successful, without negatively impacting on others to do so.
I am me, like me or hate me, honestly I’m starting to not care. I spent too many years overthinking this shit.
So it’s time for a change.
Time to truly be me and live my best life possible with those who appreciate me for what I am and want to be a part of it, and a massive ‘goodbye, farewell’ to those who don’t.
So here’s to my personal Mantra
Always be kind, show love and support to those around you. Never fall into the negative talk trap and always be true to my values. Honesty, integrity, peace love and joy. Work hard and worry only about that you can control. Surround yourself with people who lift you up and make your life better. Keep investing in myself to lead the best life possible for me and my family. Be fit and healthy, yet recognise when I need time out. Look after me, as no one else will do it for me.
Peace, love and joy.